Sudden, desperate quickies against the kitchen counter can be insanely hot, but the best sex is rich and soulful. That kind of transcendent sex where you feel completely connected to your partner — that’s what we’re aiming for this week. (And, hell, in life, for that matter.) These positions harness the bonding powers of science, neurochemistry, and things that just feel amazing to bring you closer as couple.
The Lovin’ Spoonful
Even though doggy style seems raw and animalistic, when you turn it on its side — spooning-style — it magically turns sweet and loving. Snuggle up with him (you’re the little spoon) and he can gently thrust inside you from behind, drawing it out for deliciously long, leisurely boning. The prolonged contact will leave you both so lust-laden that, after a while, every little stroke will feel amazing. Plus, with your legs squeezed together, it’ll really feel like he’s filling you up.
Instead of having an orgasm, then passing out for the night, make the rule that neither of you can come ’til morning. Throughout the night, whenever one of you happens to wake up, give the other one a sweet kiss or a sexy rub between their legs and he can occasionally thrust a few times in you/against you. Your desire, and his erection, will ebb and flow throughout the night, but you will spend the night in a dreamy state between sleep and desire. In the morning, you won’t be able to wait to make each other come.
Eyes Wide Open
Try some ancient tantric techniques for connecting deeply with your partner. Sit facing each other with your legs draped over his. Stare into each other’s eyes and synchronize your breathing. It may be super weird at first — your legs and your soul feel way too open — but keep at it. Maintain eye contact and start touching each other gently on non-erotic zones, moving on to more dangerous areas. Sit on his lap, straddling him, for some long sweet kisses, then slide onto his penis for some truly soulful sex.
Soul Mate Missionary
You can connect on a deeper level during missionary with affectionate touches like holding hands, wrapping your legs around him, stroking his back, running your fingers through his hair or entwining your legs with his. Share deep kisses, long hugs, and let him suck on your nipples — all release oxytocin, the bonding hormone. (Secret of womanhood: To prevent unwanted bonding feelings toward an unsuitable Tinder hook up, keep him the hell away from your nipples.
The Kool Karezza
In a horrible phenomenon called The Coolidge Effect, being sexually satisfied by a partner will slowly kill your desire for them. Yes, it is woefully unfair, but you can hack your stupid biological programming by not being sexuality satisfied. Which sounds horrible, but actually works. In Karezza sex, you’re basically practicing edging — get completely turned on, but back off a little right before you feel like you might orgasm so you’re always on the edge. A great position for this is to start in a spooning position, then lift your top leg back over his and turn your torso so you’re on your back, facing him, with him still inside you. Try Karezza for a month (if you can!) and you’ll find yourselves spending way more time in bed because you won’t be able to get enough of each other.